*DED*

[secondlina]

Oh, Labyrinth was a great film. It had Connelly playing a cosplayer, David Bowie displaying all his... Talents. And muppets. Who doesn't love muppets? The Dump scene (Video : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8B56YRizoTc)  always stuck me as a kid as this really horrible, stressful and confusing place where stuff was just pushed on you to make you forget about what was important. The scene was made even more powerful by the fact that these objects are actually yours.

So I guess it's a pretty good metaphor for the opposite of limbo.

This weekend, my goal is to make a list. I'm actually starting to loose tract of what I have to do. So i'm going to make a massively detailed list and stick it to my wall. Get organized, Isa! I actually think my whole "confusion at what I need to do" is something that is currently making me feel more tired then I should be. A little bit of organization can go a long way in putting your thoughts and your energy in order.

In other news, Omer Deserres, stop failing! Omer Deserres is the main chain of artstores in Québec. However, they fail at a lot of things, and they make me miss the Wallack's stores from Ontario. Fiding craft things over there? No problem. However, look for actually art materials? Good luck. I think I may need to find smaller art stores or a nice cheap art website to order from. Because my relationship with Omer is becoming ridiculous. You never give me what I want. I think we may need to part ways.

Finally, i'm trying to stay optimistic this week. It's hard. It's like humans are dead set on proving to me that they are jerks. 

A friend of mine has recently lost her husband in a car accident (and by recently, I mean last week). She's not doing okay. Not by a long shot. she's also pregnant with their child to boot. The girl is currently in a huge moral debate. Keep the kid, because she loves it and her departed husband and be a single-parent at the age of 26 or take the second option. And you know what the best part is? The husband's parents are encouraging her to abort. You'd think they would want the kid. But no, they say anything keeping her part of their family is just a mistake. They just outright hate her. It angers me to no end. I can't believe how cruel people can be.

Thankfully, her family and friends are kind.

But really, what a bunch of a-holes.

- Isa

Comments

[starmetal-oak.livejournal.com]

Wow, you'd think her in laws would want the baby since it would be the legacy of their son. I never heard a family going the other way on that.

Anyways, whatever she decides I hope she makes it for herself and not because of what her in laws say.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

Same here. I hope whatever she decides, it's what's best for her.

[amiraelizabeth.livejournal.com]

I had a friend in the same situation a couple of years back. She kept the baby and doesn't for one second ever regret it. But also, your friend has had a major shock and the decision needs to be one made with a clear head and not made due to pressure.

In the end your friend knows what's best for her. And it is her and the child that she needs to think about. Just let her know that in you she has support and point out she has support in other people as well.

The other people - poo on them. They suck.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

They really do. I can't believe how cruel people can be.

[the-flowergirl.livejournal.com]

I think she should keep the baby. It's the best thing she could do.


She will be in my thoughts.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

I hope she picks whetever makes her the happiest.

[earthstar-moon.livejournal.com]

Actually, someone told me a Micheal's should be opening in Quebec soon. I have no idea where in Quebec, but it would be nice if it was Montreal.

I feel so bad for your friend. I can't imagine what I would do with a decision like that. All you can do is know that you support her, no matter what decision she makes in the end.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

Yay! It's probably montréal. Big city and all.

*is supportive to the max*

[eveshka.livejournal.com]

It sounds to me as if your friend's in-laws hated her from the beginning and he was the only thing that kept her safe. It's a shame.

She'll have to make her own choices and weigh the options against her heart. It won't be easy, and she'll always wonder 'what if' no matter what she chooses.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

I get that feeling too. Why so much hatred though?

[eveshka.livejournal.com]

Station, class, race, religion... it could be anything.

[ichiban-victory.livejournal.com]

Isn't adoption even an option? I can understand not being able to keep the baby if she has to go the single mother route, but that shouldn't mean abortion is the only answer. The baby deserves to live. :(

I can't believe her husband's family!

In lighter news, that part of Labyrinth always freaked me out! Now it's a great reminder how much possessions can take over my life.

[pip25.livejournal.com]

Seconded. This is simply beyond belief. >_< And not to mention the countless couples attempting to adopt a child... Gah, this makes me angry.
I truly hope your friend won't give in to pressure and will keep the child.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

I just hope she takes the decision that makes her the happiest.

I think adoption was not on the options list because it would just be too hard for her emotionally. She has to do it, or not at all. I just hope she takes the time to think when she's not quite so frazzled.

[mangaka-chan.livejournal.com]

First off, my condolences to you friend. But I think the decision of whether to keep her child is HERS, not her in-laws.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

Agreed. Boo on the ass-laws.

[brendala.livejournal.com]

That poor woman. I can't believe anyone could be as cruel as those in-laws! I couldn't bring myself to be that mean to my worst enemy; let alone a distraught widow carrying the only child of a departed loved one!

Hopefully, she can easily avoid her in-laws and surround herself with people who aren't heartless jerks. And I hope she keeps the baby (the fact that the pregnancy happened right before his death seems like a sign to me).
And just because she has their grandchild doesn't mean she has to be "part of their family". If they don't want this child to exist, they're free to ignore him or her.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

I get the feeling they will be assholes for every reason on the book. I want to punch their collective faces

[spankingfemme.livejournal.com]

Wow... :( That is so twisted! Your poor, poor friend! *hugs her* I can't imagine how difficult a position she is faced with. How far along is she? Maybe she might consider adoption? I know there are tons of organizations out there set up to help women give their babies to loving families that really want a child and will pay for the mother's hospital bills and the babies throughout the pregnancy. Just something to consider :(

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

I think she needs time to think when she's not quite so frazzled and AWAY from those incredibly cruel people.

[spankingfemme.livejournal.com]

*nods* Definitely. It's quite unnerving that his family would be so callous, or that anyone could be for that matter.

[putri-nih.livejournal.com]

*hug* your friend for me.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

Of course.

[yukinoomoni.livejournal.com]

Lists! I love lists, they help so much. They are underrated.

Oh MAN I dunno what to say about your poor friend.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

A list is a great suggestion. Thanks!

[savageknight.livejournal.com]

If you'd like to know how I feel about it... I would have to say that the baby will help her keep focused on living, and on getting through this ordeal by the fact that it was made from their love and she will always have that. A single mom at 26 will be rough if she doesn't have a support system. Good thing for her friends, but what about her family?

As for the "out laws"... they don't have to exist.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

Yeah, this makes sense. Her family is pretty supportive, but really low on cash (and herself too) :(

Maybe I could do a art-for-donations for her or something.

[savageknight.livejournal.com]

If there's anything I can do to help, let me know.

[asatira.livejournal.com]

I can completely relate to being in the piles. I have so many projects that have been on the back burner and building up that I can decide which ones to do, and I don't really do any of them. Trying to work on that.

Good god, those people are awful. I'm all for choice, but I generally go for having the kid. THAT is NOT a good reason not to, it's a horrible reason. People forcing someone into such a decision are horrible, and for such selfish reasons. ARGGH! Jerks, and that's me reigning in what I want to say. Gods. I hope she is able to turn to her family and friends, whatever her decision, but just because the child is from her husband does not mean she has to have anything else to do with them. If they don't want her, they can stay out.

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

Oh god the piles. I always worry about them eating me.

They certainly can! But they are the sort of people that really like getting involved in people's existence to ruin them. I suggest she moves, makes her number private and basically flips them off forever.

[kitesareevil.livejournal.com]

What a bunch o fuck-tards! and during the hardest decision she will ever make during her life!? If I could harm them, I would them, I would harm them, I would hard them good! *points* Like that

[secondlina.livejournal.com]

Same here.