What qualifies as a perfect upbringing anyways? I consider an individual raised well if they turn out as capable, knowledgable and not too screwed up. If a parent gives kids love, kindness and knowledge to the best of their abilities, then it's good. You can't expect every parent to be this amazing stay-at-home-mother who bake, cleans and does rocket science. Good parenting is love, real love, and protection.